Trusting a person lies in your sphere of influence. Reciprocation of that benign trust is beyond your sphere of influence. It is a simple law of nature based on the action-reaction duet. A person can only control his own action and not the resultant reaction.
In case of relationships anything that is not mutual meets a bitter end. Breach of trust is one such phenomenon. In other words, betrayal in a relationship on some or the other pretext is a reality of life. Like an ostrich we must not ignore its occurrence. Accepting it as a bitterly brutal truth of life, we must devise ways to combat it with grace.
Moving on, as it is called, irks me as a phrase. Having a filmy vibe, this phrase demeans the honest effort of at least one of the parties. Rather, we must try letting the feeling of being cheated go away from our conscience. Just let it go!
Taoism emphasises on the natural flow of life. That is to say alignment of one’s existence with the grand scheme of existence. It’s like the flow of river. A person’s role is limited to that of action, which is also known as karma. Meandering through the not so undulating terrain of circumstances life ultimately chooses the best path for itself.
Some people may term it to be fatalist approach. Apparently, it seems like that. However, a deeper enquiry would promptly reveal that life is all about cause and effect not bound by the dimension of time. It is this vastness of the scale of time that is beyond our limits of understanding. What seems to you a betrayal of recent happening might be having its cause in a forgotten action or a series of actions that you cannot comprehend separately.
If someone cheats upon you and your heart sinks in cluelessness, there is no better way than letting that person go. Especially in love, in order to keep the sanctity of your feelings intact it’s best that you must allow that person to fade away from your life gracefully. Anything else would only cause bitterness. Bitterness that would injure your soul.
A scar in the heart is better than a scar on your soul. Karma catches every person one day. Therefore, one who is betrayed must not harbour any grudge against the wrongdoer. There is nothing instantaneous in life. Not even punishment. Everything takes it’s own due course. Moreover, seeing the person you love in misery might provide temporary comfort but it cannot be source of perennial joy. Karma will do the needful at the appropriate time.
One must not forget that a unilateral betrayal does not end the love entrenched in your heart for that person. Lack of reciprocation might obviate physical proximity but it does not murder the essence of love that lies deep within you. It shall rest in an obscure corner of your being even if the person you loved has mauled it by cheating and betrayal.
There is no moving on from love or a relationship for the one who is wronged for no fault. S/he can only let the other person and emotions associated with him/her go.
Let that person go who did not deserve you. There is no penal consequence in material terms for breach of emotional trust and bonds. Vindiction is not the way out of the pain. Retributory pain is not the antidote of pain induced by betrayal. Violence of love hurts you silently. Living with emotional scars is a reality. Most of the times the injury is caused by the one you believe the most. Once broken, trust cannot be repaired.
Start a journey inwards and seek solace in the solitude of Self because any other replacement will also result in an ephemeral relationship. It is bound to end either by betrayal or death. The latter being an excuse beyond our control provides us necessary succour. If viewed dispassionately the effect is same- ‘ending of the relationship.’
You cannot change the persona and nature of the other person. Accept that your emotional investment has gone awry.
Do not even seek remorse in the other person because the genes of betrayal manifest unjustifiable excuses. Sorry is a facade that is uncovered by the casual display of normalcy.
Acknowledge the happenings of the present and let that go what intoxicates your life even for a second! Self-esteem is your corpus. Never give the key to your being to anyone other than your own SELF.
Let that person go who could not stand for you. Stand for yourself. Shun all beliefs and tread the path meant for you. Cultivate indifference for such a person and deal with the associated emotions. Letting go is an active and not a passive task.
You will be healed and Iife will one day do justice with you!!
– Ashaant
Small City Thinker 
The time of posting this piece says it all.Ashant is a manifestation of Prashant. Tides in the ocean (not Pacific but Indian)
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